Isn't a wedding about 2 persons wanting to celebrate their love and commitment in the presence of their family and friends?
If so, then, how can it be selfish?
Think about the many years to come, during which you should remember your dream wedding.
Whereas for your family and friends, it will only be one of the probably many weddings they've attended.
So, the answer to the question 'are destination weddings selfish' is a definite NO.
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